Introducing your children to your new partner is a huge step in a relationship. It is important that you are thoughtful and strategic when doing this so that your child has time to process this new adjustment. Try to avoid introducing your child to every partner you meet, that will only end up confusing them more. Instead do your best to be sure that it is developing into a serious and committed relationship. Here are some tips to help make the process a little easier on everyone:
Prior to the Meeting
Prepare your child by telling them about your new partner and explaining why you have one. Tell them about the fun things you guys do together or hobbies they may have. Prepare your partner by telling them about your child, their likes and dislikes, their interests, this will help them to make a connection and find some common ground.
At the First Meeting
Try introducing your partner as your “new friend” to ease your child into this new relationship. Do it somewhere your child is already comfortable. Try doing an activity that is light, fun and short. Go somewhere they are comfortable, a park, bowling, this will be less pressure and put your child in a relaxed and positive mood.
After the Meeting
Once you have had your first meeting give the relationship time to develop and grow organically. Do not rush anything or put pressure on either of them. Always be sure to help them both feel included and balance your time out between them. Take things slow and address problems as they come, relationship building takes time and patience.