Communication is the foundation of relationships. How we connect with those we care about verbally and physically plays a big role. Trying to understand how our partner is feeling or what they are going through can help us to be better communicators and better partners. Nobody is an expert communicator. It takes time, it is a skill and process that you must be actively aware of and working on together.
Listen to Listen- Not to Reply
Sometimes we get excited about what we have to say meanwhile forgetting to show appreciation and interest in what our partner has to say. Make sure you are actively listening and not passively. Make sure to be thinking before responding.
Ask for Clarification
If you are ever confused or not sure what your partner meant, that is okay. Don’t assume. Ask questions and make sure you are on the same page.
Careful Word Choice
Be careful when expressing to your partner how you feel. Using words like “You”, “Always” or “Never” can make it seem like you’re blaming them or singling them out.
Carve out some Time
Life can be busy, and when you are constantly juggling work, kids and other responsibilities time for quality communication can easily get pushed to the side. Set aside five to ten minutes of un-int
errupted quality time to catch up and to focus on your partner.
Always Appreciate
One of the most important steps to quality communication. Show gratitude- saying things like “Thank you for doing that today, I know you were busy”. Gratitude does not always need to be shown in big and flashy ways. This short sentence will make your partner feel appreciated even if it is as simple as reminding them.
