Being single can mean a wide variety of things to different people. Maybe you have just gotten out of a relationship with the partner you thought was going to be the one and your Friday night looks like a Nicholas Sparks movie and a tub of Ben and Jerrys. Maybe you are in year 5 of being single and you’re tired of your Friday nights being gir/guy nights out looking for an eligible bachelor/bachelorette. One thing they both have in common is the transition period between they’re last relationship and they’re next.Â
Be SelfishÂ
Take advantage of this time. This may be the last chance that you get to make decisions revolving entirely around yourself. Do what makes you happy and take charge of your life. Always wanted to travel Europe but your ex wasn’t interested? Now is the time. This is your eat pray love moment. This way you will have no crippling “what ifs†when you do choose to settle down later on.Â
Focus on your other Relationships
You now have the time to get coffee with that friend that you keep rescheduling. Use this time to strengthen and nourish your relationships with friends and family. Lean on them when you’re feeling a little lonely. Just because you don’t have a romantic partner doesn’t mean you can’t have date nights. Set up a date with a friend- Movie night? New restaurant you have been dying to try?Â
Get to know You
Sometimes when we have been with someone for so long they become a part of our identity. It’s always you + them. What is it about you that is unique? What are your passions? Really find what makes you happy when nobody else has an opinion. Journal, reflect, meditate and learn about yourself. What did you like about your last relationship? What will you never put up with again? What does your next partner need to be like in order to make you happy?
DateÂ
No rush. Only when you are ready. Dating is not a distraction from thinking about your ex, it’s an opportunity to learn about yourself. The best way to prepare for a relationship is to get experience. Go on dates and meet new people. See what turns you on or what turns you off. What’s a must have and what’s a deal breaker. Put yourself out there. This can really boost your confidence and can make being single fun.Â
